Sorry like i answered a question earlier but like it kinda turned into a rant lol but just read it its not...?

Well I applaud you for wanting to be an active part of your sons life. It really bothers me when people automatically judge the father harshly for not staying with the mother of his children. It's all a part of how our society stereotypes men and women. First of all I think it is terrible for people to "stay together for the kids". Just because two people have a child together does not mean they should run off and get married or even stay together. If they don't really love each other it gives children a terrible view of what a healthy marriage should look like. For instance my husband thought it was completely normal for his parents to sleep in different rooms until he was 13, a couple of years after they got divorced. Though a family is usually the idea it's much better for a child to see their parents happy and apart then together and fighting all the time or constantly cheating on each other. So when people look down on a man for not staying with the mother of his child it really upsets me. If he doesn't want to be with her no matter what the reason it's not going to be a good example for their child. Secondly, I hate when people ume that when a man leaves it is just him running from responsibility and never think about the faults of the mother. I know fathers who do run from their responsibilities by not visiting their child or paying child support but honestly I know more who are very active in their child's life and never miss a payment. Unfortunately our society tends to ume the father has selfish or bad motives when leaving the mother of his child, This is one instance where men definitely get the short end of the stick. I agree that people shouldn't be so quick to judge relationships that they know nothing about. uming that men are bad people or at fault for not staying with the mother of their children when you know nothing of the situation is ist.